It is my experience that honesty is considered to be one of the more admirable of virtues, yet in reality is one of the most reviled.
People have, on more than one occasion, said that honesty should be tempered with tact. In other words, if being honest means hurting someones feelings or pissing someone off then it should be avoided. Or if not avoided, approached delicately so as not to upset anyone.
I can't do it. When I say, "I love you," I love you. When I say, "I hate you," I hate you. When I say, "I don't understand," it means I don't have a fucking clue what's going on...explain or re-phrase. When I say, "That's stupid," it means I've thought about it and come to that conclusion, and will happily provide you with my reasons as to why and how I got there.
When I see a spade, I call it a fucking shovel.
I make no pretensions at being perfect, but I do try for it.
I am of the opinion, after many years of thinking about it, that the world suffers from an overabundance of tact, rather than a lack of it.
And before anyone accuses me of it, I am NOT advocating being rude. Opinions should only be given when they are asked for, or when they are necessary in your judgement to avoid serious error. However, when an opinion is asked for it should be given directly, not circumspectly.
A person, when recieving a negative opinion from someone else, is a fool to act as if they don't care. That person should be asking, simply, "Why?"
When I voice an opinion and a person scoffs, sneers, or ignores it, I categorize them as a fool. When they ask, "Why?", I categorize them as someone I should seek opinions of as well.
Episode #200 of The Clarey Podcast
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