Monday, April 12, 2010

I need some razors, diplomatic immunity, and a plane ticket to Yemen.

I've been avoiding blogging about this because it turns my stomach, and I don't want to think about it. I don't like being filled with helpless rage. I don't like feeling like maybe it wouldn't be so bad if an entire country was nuked from orbit.

A 13-year-old Yemeni child bride who bled to death shortly after marriage was tied down and forced to have sex by her husband, according to interviews with the child's mother, police and medical reports.

The girl's mother, Nijma Ahmed, 50, told the Associated Press that before her daughter lost consciousness, she said that her husband had tied her up and forced himself on her. "She looked like she was butchered," she said about her daughter's injuries.

Elham Assi, 13, bled to death hours after she spoke to her mother and just days after she was married to a 23-year-old man. She died on April 2 in the deeply poor Yemeni village of Shueba, some 200 kilometers northwest of the capital. Her husband, Abed al-Hikmi, is in police custody.

The practice of marrying young girls is widespread in Yemen where a quarter of all females marry before the age of 15, according to a 2009 report by the country's Ministry of Social Affairs. Traditional families prefer young brides because they are seen as more obedient and are expected to have more children.

Legislation to ban child brides has been stalled by opposition from religious leaders. There has been no government comment over the case.

How fucked must a society be that their is opposition to stopping this sort of thing from happening? This fucked:

The girl — one of eight siblings — was pushed into marriage after an agreement between her brother and her future-husband to marry each other's sisters to avoid having to pay expensive bride-prices — a common arrangement in Yemen, the poorest country in the Middle East.

According to police notes from the interrogation of the husband, he was upset because he could not consummate their relationship and felt under pressure to prove his manhood.

Assi's mother said she also tried to persuade her daughter to have sex with her husband so as not to shame the family.

Her family gave her to him. They were supposed to protect her.

Al-Hikmi took his young bride to a nearby medical clinic, asking a doctor there to administer her tranquilizers so she would not resist his advances. The clinic said it refused.

Al-Hikmi then obtained performance enhancing pills, according to the police interrogation, and that night completed the act while she screamed.

The next day, he returned to the same medical clinic carrying Assi because she could not walk.

Doctors are supposed to 'do no harm.' She should have been safe with them.

"I told him not to go near her for at least ten days," said Dr. Fathiya Haidar. She said Assi's vaginal canal was ripped.

I'm sure such a kind and caring 'husband' took the doctors advice!

A forensic report obtained by the AP showed that Assi's injuries were much more extensive, including extensive tearing around the vagina and rectum, suggesting that there might have been additional intercourse after the clinic visit.

Her mother said she visited Assi later that day, where she found her daughter fading in and out of consciousness.

"She whispered in my ear that he had tied her up and had sex with her violently," she said. "I said to her husband, what have you done, you criminal?"

The sheer shamelessness of the mother to ask that of the man she gave her daughter to willingly. A mother who puts her daughter into the hands of a rapist has no right to ask such a question.

You are all criminals.

Every single thing, for I will not label such monsters 'persons,' who had anything to do with allowing this atrocity should be staked out in the hot sun and be sliced apart with razor blades over the course of days, and I'd like to do it. I want to hear their screams and pleas for mercy as the blades neatly separates their flesh. I want watch as they writhe in agony as their own sweat stings their wounds.

Not much brings out that kind of wrath in me. I don't like it. I don't like that their are evils so great as to bring out this sort of emotion in me. These monstrosities in human guise deserve a slow and painful death.

ETA: I guess I shouldn't be surprised to see that Al Jazeera isn't carrying this story on their website.

CNN reports the story in sterilized form as such (and I had to do a search to find it):

A 12-year-old Yemeni bride died of internal bleeding following intercourse three days after she was married off to an older man, the United Nations Children's Fund said.

Fox News is still showing the story on their main page, and they had the integrity to give the details of the girls injuries.

"Internal bleeding following intercourse" vs. "extensive tearing around the vagina and rectum," certainly have two different effects on me. The first makes me feel bad for the girl and think "how tragic!" The second makes me feel horrified for the girl and think "I'd like to torture to death the motherfuckers who did this!"


Kris said...

Holy. Shit.

I don't even know what to say to this, but my emotions are pretty much a reflection of yours. I just . . . wow.

Unfortunately, I know that all too often even the women in such cultures don't have a problem with this kind of treatment. They've grown up in it and they expect it--even THEY think of themselves as second-rate citizens and not as important as men. I don't know if that makes it better or worse, but I'm American enough, feminist enough, and terrified enough of rape that this strikes me as horrific and--well, I don't have the vocabulary for it, and that's saying a lot.

Holy. Shit.

I'm out of practice on foul language, but I trust you can come up with something for me. I can't think of anything strong enough to express how sick this makes me.

RobertM said...

Yeah, it's just totally fucked up situation all around and it pisses me off that I can't do anything about it.